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A Life Lesson of Giving: I AM

What we could learn from a man who had it all and then decided he didn’t need it.

I was sitting around trying to figure out what I was going to watch on TV for prime time. I came across a documentary that seemed a little interesting. It is called I AM (produced by Tom Shadyac). At first glimpse I thought it was gonna be pretty religious, however, it really wasn’t.

The story was about a man who had it all. He made tons of money and he lived in the perfect ZIP Code. Even had a private jet and one of the most expensive car is known to man. But then, something happened.

He had a brain trauma that resulted in a concussion (interesting article about the NFL) that would not go away. There are a few instances reported every year on these types of concussions. They are very specific and the worst part about it is that they won’t dissipate.

The typical victim suffering from this type of condition usually battle depression and can’t seem to shake it. Sad to say eventually many of these patients end up taking their own lives in suicide.

As the man who made the documentary discovered he had become depressed about his situation as well. He sought out many different types of therapies and tried different things out.

Even tried hyperbaric chambers. Unfortunately nothing fixed this problem. There was no therapy that enabled him to get a restart on life without the plaguing disease.

So, in a final attempt and since he was well know  movie-maker he wanted to leave one last message to the world. The message was about our own humanity and what we are caught in.

He tried to answer two questions. The first question was what is wrong with our world? And the second question was how do we fix it?

To answer the challenge of these questions he resorted to interviewing scholars, academics, psychologists, sociologists and more.

What he discovered as he explained it, was a powerful analogy. One of the people interviewed described a scenario in which all of us can identify.

He said suppose we were stranded outside in a snowstorm. Suppose that we happened across upon someone and they invited us in into a small home with the fireplace something to drink and a warm meal as well as clean clothes. Immediately we would go from unhappy to happy. The big fallacy in  our thinking is that more of what made us happy will make us happier. In other words if the house were bigger, if the fire were bigger, if the food were better then we would also be happier.

But the reality is that we are not any happier. In some tribes across the world people who decide that they want more and more and are not happy with what they have and feel that they need to hoard, it is considered a mental illness.

The documentary recommended considering what would happen if the tribe were to have brave warriors that went out every day hunted and killed and brought back food. (That is the standard.) However, what would happen if the same warriors decided that they did not want to share their spoils with the other members of the tribe? Well, some of the individuals in the tribe would become too weak to hunt and would not be able to sustain their lives because of a lack of nutrition.

Imagine that one of these warriors taught all of his children to do the same. At the end of the loop would be a group of people who had most of the wealth who were not willing to share with others. Basically the I am documentary is there to show us how sick our mentality is when it comes to sharing with others.

We have grown up in a culture that teaches us to be number one to win. But at the end of that there is nothing. Meanwhile other people who are not winning are not able to afford the most minimal things.

This shows that our society and culture is sick with a mental illness.

The author eventually sold his beautiful home and moved into a small unassuming place in a mobile home community.

He downsized and is now much more focused on connecting with others in recognizing that he won’t be here forever and that the most important thing is recognizing that we are all somehow connected.

It was a powerful documentary and it made me really think about my own goals and activities. I recognize now that although I may be focused on success, I must make sure that it doesn’t own me.

The Little Things that Make Life Easier

Outsource and Simplify: How I totally took the stress off

Hey guys I just wanted to get with you today and share a couple of thoughts that I had I’m making life easier. A couple of things that drive me absolutely crazy is having to mow the lawn myself. It’s not like I have a man around here that can do this stuff.

I am not saying that only men can do it, but it sure would be nice to have a man to help me out a little. 🙂

Do you know what I mean?

So I was sitting out by my pool the other day and I realized that although it is a small pool, it’s a lot of work to maintain it. I searched online to see if I could find a company that would help me out. After going through a few I finally found this company: www.lakenonapoolmaintenance.com

I call the company to see if they would be able to help me maintain it. I I didn’t know at the time that I came across a pretty cool group of people. They were super helpful and they really gave me a great price. I mean I want to enjoy my pool not just spend time worrying about how many parts per million and chemicals it needs. I would rather leave that to the pros. My job is just simply swim in it.

I was also able to find a in affordable lawn service to help me out. This way I don’t really have to worry about the yard either. They actually come out and weed. Well, nobody really weeds (at least by had unless it is a huge weed)  but they do spray for weeds.

So now I am perfectly situated to simply be able to enjoy my yard and my pool. I don’t really spend a ton of time and either but if it looks nice although time I probably will.

I know what you’re saying. Oh you can save so much money if you do it yourself. I was looking up a chart to know how to fertilize the lawn and that was pretty much it for me. I was a little overwhelmed and decided to pretty much given up.

You can take a look at the chart yourself and tell me what you think hear this. Yearly Calendar of Lawn Care

It obviously was written by an expert and it was published by the University of Florida. But, by the the second or maybe third page I was seeing blurry lines. It wasn’t because my vision is bad, it just simply was too much to think about if you know what I mean. I would much rather just be able to run across my lawn and swim in my pool and not have to worry about all of this maintenance.

So with today’s post my chief aim is to let you know that you should consider areas in your life where you can outsource the work to other people so that you can enjoy more. What good is life if you feel like all you do is work. You need to feel like you’re always on vacation according to me.

Well you know what I mean. winkie, winkie.

My challenge to you today:

Think about ways that you can some fire your life so that you can enjoy it more. A friend of mine told me the other day that she was going to take a cruise because she just had a friend that died. She realized (because she is getting up there in age too) that if she were dead she would not be able to go on the cruise so she decided to “just” go…. While she still can. And she is still breathing.

Made sense to me.

 

 

How to Travel Well when You are Broke

 

How to travel on a super thin shoestring budget.

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I asked my brother to write an article on traveling on a shoestring budget for me and my readers.

Here is what he came up with.

A few years back I was hurting for money, so I was looking around and wait to take a road trip without staying in hotels.

Granted I’m a male so it really doesn’t matter as much as a female for reasons that I’ll explain in a minute.

So I ended up telling a friend of mine that I wanted to do this, and he says oh I have a friend that does that all the time. You should talk to him.

His name is Andy. I called Andy and asked him how do you travel without staying in hotels?

He said I call it stealth camping. I said stealth what?

Yeah you got it stealth camping. He explained that he had a pretty sophisticated hammock system. It was quite expensive, but it worked really well.(he ended up letting me borrow his).

The idea is that you simply find a spot almost in plain sight LOL and you hang your hammock there and you sleep there for a few hours and then keep moving on.
We talked for a long time about the best places to do this. The next thing I did was I googled stealth camping and I found that there’s a whole genre of the people that do this.

I asked him what his best tips were regarding the subject. He told me that often times if you have dinner in a restaurant where you talk to the manager….and….if you order a big meal and eat well, then asked the manager if it’s all right if you take a nap and your hammock behind the restaurant, often they will comply.

He did say that he had a rule that if anyone ever asked him to leave he would simply comply without complaint. I asked him about rest areas and he told me that they are not always the best because their monitored. But, sometimes if it’s a small rest area you can simply walk into the woods a little ways and hang your Hammock.

However, one of the best places to do it is actually at a boat ramp. He said if you can find one on the map drive to it, and look for around for a place to hang your Hammock.

The reason this works so well is simply because if police come by there they are used to seeing cars parked there overnight because people are out fishing on the lake. It doesn’t really raise an alarm, if you park your car there. They will just assume that your a friend going out on someone’s boat.

If there are absolutely no other cars there then maybe it’s not a good idea that particular boat ramp.

I asked him if he had ever had anything crazy happen to them while doing this. He said no, couple of times he was asked to leave. He did so. One time however, a couple decided to get a little frisky close to his hammock not realizing that he was laying there.

Kind of funny ha ha. Well that’s all for now. Happy stealth camping!

How to vacation in the Caribbean for cheap.

If you ever wanted to have a really cool trip through the Caribbean, I highly recommend that you consider one of the greatest ways to travel through that particular area.

….And you probably have never heard about it!

Did you know that there is a way that you can take a cruise for literally pennies on the dollar compared to what you would spend if you charted your own boat and captain?

Have you ever heard of kite boarding?

If you haven’t it’s a sport that is driven by the wind. It entails a large kite the size of an RV and a small board. The writer basically steers the kite into the wind and allows the force the wind to pull him along behind it on something the equivalent of a wake-board.

There are charters that go out in the Caribbean all the time for these individuals who are simply chasing the wind.

The nice part about it is that most kite boarders aren’t really known for having tons of money so the Charters are not that expensive.

You can tag along as a “beginner.”

However, if you suddenly decide to check it out from trying to learn how to do it it’s okay. You can still have the vacation of a lifetime because they will take it to different locations seeking out the lagoons with the smoothest water to be able to kiteboard.

You can find some links below to locate a company that provides this kind of kite boarding travel.

You’ll have the same view as people that spend $250,000 a week for a fraction of the price.

Check it out here: http://caribbeankitecruise.com/caribbean-kitesurf-trips.html

And I found it is one of the best ways to see the Caribbean and enjoy it.

Just as a side note if you are prone to seasickness I would highly recommend that you try scopolamine patches.

This was one of the biggest deterrent for me originally when I thought about giving it a try. I was worried that on a catamaran I would be to motion sick to enjoy the trip. A friend of mine mentioned these patches and so I thought I would give it a try. They’re a little pricey but they do last for three days of peace. You simply peel and stick them behind your ear.

It worked marvelously for me.

As a matter of fact while everyone else on board was getting sick for the first day of travel, I felt great. I actually slept like a baby.